What “Tenting” From ‘Bluey’ Can Educate Us About Loss
Despite the fact that it’s inevitable, it by no means hurts any much less when a friendship ends or a relative dies. We count on the folks we like to all the time be there, and we are inclined to take them as a right. Subsequently, it’s a large shock once we lose these relationships. Once they go, it’s exhausting to not let our disappointment eat our reminiscences of them, and as an alternative give attention to the nice occasions we shared. Despite the fact that shedding them was unhappy, we now have to maintain the nice reminiscences in thoughts and understand that, regardless that it was unhappy to lose them, it’s higher to have beloved and misplaced than to by no means have beloved in any respect. That is proven within the Bluey episode “Tenting.”
Within the episode, whereas on a tenting journey along with her household, Bluey meets and befriends a boy named Jean-Luc who speaks French. Each morning like clockwork, they meet as much as play with one another, and half methods when it’s meal time. They play numerous video games collectively, like constructing a little bit home out of sticks, planting a seed to develop a tree, and searching Bluey’s dad, Bandit, pretending he’s a wild pig. Regardless of the language barrier between them, Bluey and Jean-Luc are in a position to take pleasure in one another’s firm, have enjoyable taking part in collectively, and discover methods to grasp one another, like after they draw on a rock to speak their plan of catching the “wild pig” (Bandit).
Regardless of all the nice occasions they share with one another, sadly, it should come to an finish. On Jean-Luc’s final day, when their mother and father name them again for dinner, Jean-Luc tries to inform Bluey he’s leaving. As a result of they don’t communicate the identical language, Bluey simply assumes they are going to meet the following day as typical. She cheerfully runs off, having no thought she received’t be seeing her new good friend once more, a minimum of not for a really very long time.
The following day, Bluey sees a little bit bud begin to develop from the seed she and Jean-Luc planted. She excitedly runs to go inform Jean-Luc, however his household’s tent is gone and he’s nowhere to be discovered. She asks her mother, Chilli, about it, and Chilli says that they left earlier that morning. This new info devastates Bluey, who goes to take a seat by herself the place she and Jean-Luc would usually play, and sobs. That night time, Bluey accompanies Chilli and her little sister Bingo on a visit to the lavatory, and Bluey expresses disappointment that Jean-Luc needed to depart and desires she may maintain taking part in with him. Chilli tells her, “Generally particular folks come into our lives, keep for a bit, after which they must go.” Bluey says that’s unhappy, and Chilli responds, “It’s, however the bit the place they have been right here was blissful, wasn’t it?” Bluey reminisces on the time they spent collectively, and Chilli responds “Perhaps that makes all of it price it.” Bluey asks if she’ll ever see her good friend once more and Chilli replies, “You by no means know, the world is a magical place.”
Through the years, the little bud that Bluey and Jean-Luc planted ended up rising into a giant stunning tree with plenty of flowers. We then see teenage Bluey, her household having returned to the identical tenting spot years later, sit beneath the tree to learn. She then hears a voice say “Howdy, Bluey”, and turns to see a teenaged Jean-Luc, waving at her.
This episode resonates as a result of all of us have misplaced folks we beloved, whether or not or not it’s a good friend breakup, a romantic breakup, or a relative dying, and all of us have needed to cope with the grief of shedding a relationship that was so necessary to us. I, as an illustration, misplaced my grandmother in 2021 after an extended battle with dementia and Covid, and I couldn’t assist however really feel a lot anger and disappointment that somebody I used to be so near, who introduced me a lot pleasure and luxury in my youth, was taken from me and my household in such an unfair manner. I couldn’t assist however bear in mind how issues was and the way I used to like going over to her home. I knew I may all the time rely on her to spoil me and my sister, like a superb grandma would. My grandma and grandpa would babysit me and my sister at our home, and I’d really feel unhappy and indignant pondering how it could by no means be like that once more. “Why does it must be this fashion?” I assumed. “It’s so unfair! I miss Grandma! I want issues could possibly be like they was!” However what I’ve been coming to appreciate is that regardless that the tip of her life was unhappy, that’s not the half I ought to dwell on once I consider her. Like Chilli stated, the bit whereas she was right here was blissful, very a lot so. I all the time regarded ahead to seeing her, I all the time may rely on her to present me additional dessert, and I all the time preferred watching Curious George along with her once I was six. She all the time knew easy methods to cheer me up once I was unhappy. Perhaps Chilli’s proper. Perhaps the nice occasions you had with them do make all of it price it.
As well as, regardless that we want it didn’t must be so, as this episode exhibits, some relationships are simply not meant to final ceaselessly. This episode jogs my memory of being a little bit child and ending up befriending one other child within the play-place at McDonald’s. You’re having plenty of enjoyable taking part in collectively, however finally one or each of you should go house, and also you by no means see one another once more. It’s unhappy, however sadly, that is how some friendships in life work: they’re not meant to final ceaselessly. However simply because somebody wasn’t meant to be in your life ceaselessly, doesn’t imply the time you spent with them wasn’t helpful or valuable. You need to nonetheless treasure the time you spent collectively, as clearly they meant one thing to you.
In brief, typically in life some relationships final shorter than we’d like. We want we may have extra time with those that we love, and we are able to’t assist however really feel unhappy that our time ended so prematurely and dwell on the way it ended. As a substitute, it helps to give attention to the enjoyment they introduced after they have been right here. Despite the fact that how they left was unhappy, like Chilli stated, the bit the place they have been right here was blissful, and so they did handle to make a optimistic contribution to your life, regardless of how immense or transient. Perhaps that does make all of it price it.